Relationship Part 2

By Zion Loo


This is part two of my personal advice for forming and maintaining a genuine and desired relationship and I heavily recommend reading part one first.

Lesson number three: You are not at fault for not romantically loving someone. And you probably can’t change how you feel, so don’t waste time trying. I once tried to force myself to fall in love with someone because I felt bad for them. Because I wanted to do them a favor. I was giving myself to them like a cute little Christmas present and that was very stupid. You should not feel obliged to like someone just because they like you. It isn’t your fault or even the other person’s fault if you don’t and there’s nothing you can do about it. It’s sad, of course, but it happens. There’s no point in trying to change it.

These are the things that have taken me years of discomfort to figure out. I know some of this might have sounded obvious to some, or maybe it seemed like some of it went without saying, but I felt like this needed to be said out loud. Even if you feel like you know it in your head it can be really hard to actually accept it. And I know that there might be someone out there who’s a little awkward kid trying to love people to the best of their ability just like how I had been, and I need that single person to read this so that they don’t have to go through what I did.